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Prawn
04-21-2007, 04:08 AM
I am near this (http://www.philadelphiabookfestival.org/authors_2007.htm) great festival where there will by many authors speaking, some of them best-sellers, like Mary Higgins Clark. How can I use this opportunity to help get my foot in the door? There are several of the authors that I would like to talk to, but what I would also like is a bit of help. I am not much of a schmoozer. How do I go about it? I can't visualize a conversation that has me doing anything but coming off looking like an a**hole.

Can anyone give me any advice?

herdon
04-21-2007, 04:25 AM
I'd be curious as to what you mean by "opportunity to help get my foot in the door" and "...would also like is a bit of help"

What are you looking to get out of them?

If it is simply a little bit of advice you should be direct. "I was wonder (ask question here)"

If you want something more then you should probably re-adjust your expectations. These type of events are for authors to meet their fans. They are going to talk to a lot of would-be authors and most won't mind this nor will they mind a question or two. Just be mindful of their time and respectful of everyone else there that would also like the chance to meet one of thier favorite authors and be brief.

Jamesaritchie
04-21-2007, 04:37 AM
Get your foot in what door? The thing to do is treat bestselling writers just as you would treat anyone else, and don't go there expecting to use them for your own gains.

Just talk to them, tell them you like their books, and do not volunteer anything at all about your own writing. If they want to know, they'll ask.

Siddow
04-21-2007, 04:44 AM
Bring copies of their books and ask for autographs; that's always fun. Buy them a drink if you see them out at a pub. Be nice, tell them what your really like about their books, but most of all, shut up about yourself. Maybe they'll remember you months or years from now and when they read about your deal in Publisher's Marketplace, just maybe they'll request an ARC for a blurb.

Wouldn't that be cool?

Yeah, it would, just don't expect it.

ClaudiaGray
04-21-2007, 04:44 AM
I agree with Havlan -- you can ask for advice, a brief bit of conversation, but that's probably as much as you can expect. It's going to be very tough to ask for more substantive help in a way that (a) can make an impression on such short acquaintance and (b) won't make you come across as an amateur, thus making any future help unlikely.

ORION
04-21-2007, 04:47 AM
The "best selling" authors that I have had the pleasure to work with helped only so far as teaching the classes I took from them and chatting about writing. It was only after I obtained representation that I was able to get blurbs - No one introduced me to their agent or editor or eased the process in any way. That is not how it is generally done.
To "get your foot in the door" requires good writing.
If you want more from any of these writers take a class they happen to teach at a writers workshop or retreat.
JMHO

Rolling Thunder
04-21-2007, 04:52 AM
Squeal really loud and run up to them with your arms flailing wildly about.

Okay, this should be considered bad advice. Unless...you see Orion there. Then by all means do it and she'll know you spend time on AW. :D

The Grift
04-21-2007, 04:52 AM
Correct me if I'm wrong, but I was under the impression that most authors, especially best-selling ones, who have half-decent lawyers/agents/publishers are pretty much barred from reading any unpublished material. That means that a best-selling author probably couldn't help you get your foot in any doors as they could not read or reccomend your material.

However, advice I'm sure they could do. One suggestion might be to find something similar in your backgrounds and use that to ask them advice. For instance, "I have read that you were a cop before you started writing. I'm a cop too. How did you use that experience to market your books to agents and publishers? Especially since you write historical erotic fiction?"

Any thoughts? Am I wrong?

freshpencils
04-21-2007, 05:18 AM
Just be charming and funny and friendly. Don't talk about yourself at all. Be a good listener. That's a difficult combination for anyone to resist. I wouldn't bring your writing unless it comes up in context. Think how many solicitations, veiled and blunt, these famous people have gotten from strangers who take advantage of "face time."

Your goal should be to strike up an aquaintance. After that, you never know what's going to happen.

Jan-Tosh
04-21-2007, 05:25 AM
I was invited to an after-reading dinner with some "best-selling" (:rolleyes:) authors and some professors once. I hadn't read any of their work, I didn't even go to the reading they just came from (wow I felt out of place and like a table leech) but I'm glad I didn't because I didn't want to talk about writing. And neither did they. We all joked about current events, Bush, movies, and they talked about their kids a lot. The only time we got to writing was one asked a few of the students at the table how long we had been writing. Everyone gave the cliche, arrogant, baloney answer of "oh I was special, I started writing when I was 3" or younger. I broke herd and said I didn't start writing until I was 17 and it was in fanfiction, so I was surely doomed. Laughter. Then one author said fanfiction is perfectly respectable and that his writing is already practically fanfiction since he's trying to be like Stephen King all the time. Joking, but he did a good job of deflating my self-deprication.

If you are in close contact with strangers who have already achieved your dream of "making it" as writers, take a breath, play it cool. They're just like anyone else, maybe a little more crazy. Don't be the asshat grad student at the table who keeps pestering them with your "amazing life-changing" novel idea (this one guy explained it, multiple times, and it sounded more awful each time). Feel out a situation, listen for the tone and the direction of a conversation. If they want to talk about writing or particularly 'your' writing, let them bring it up. Yeah, definitely don't talk about yourself for extended periods unless they ask and then they ask follow-ups.

Prawn
04-21-2007, 05:44 AM
I guess I am expecting too much, but it both exciting and frustrating to be near so many people who have gotten their books in print.

scribbler1382
04-21-2007, 07:43 AM
My entire exchange with the first "big name" author I met <mumble-mumble> years ago:

"Can you sign these books?"

"Sure."

"You're very good."

"Thanks. Can you hold my jacket?"

After that it was a blur as I realized I was standing there holding Clive Barker's jacket. (This was when he was "the next big name in horror" of course.) It took all my willpower not to sacrifice the autographs and run away with his coat. :D

Little Red Barn
04-21-2007, 08:12 AM
I've been conversing with a best selling author regulary now---She calls when she has time and I just listen mostly...but she has given me a lot of insight, asks questions and offers advice, but I would never expect her to get me through any door.

Silver King
04-21-2007, 08:41 AM
The safest thing to do is to act like they're not a big deal, even if you and the rest of the world feel they are. Be cool. Minus the success, they're no different than you or anyone else.

CheshireCat
04-21-2007, 08:44 AM
Correct me if I'm wrong, but I was under the impression that most authors, especially best-selling ones, who have half-decent lawyers/agents/publishers are pretty much barred from reading any unpublished material. That means that a best-selling author probably couldn't help you get your foot in any doors as they could not read or reccomend your material.

Yes, most agents and all literary attorneys strongly discourage their clients from reading unpublished work -- at least until it's reached the ARC stage.

And, no, the bestselling author could not help you get your foot in any door, most likely. Despite what you may have heard, there isn't a bit of truth in the "you have to know somebody to get published" BS. And, believe me, both agents and editors can get mighty resentful if they're confidently told, "You're going to love this author and his/her work!"

I guess I am expecting too much, but it both exciting and frustrating to be near so many people who have gotten their books in print.

And those people will be eternally grateful to you if you don't ask them to read something, or introduce you to someone, or -- God help them -- tell you how to get published.

As others have said, be courteous, and friendly -- and if you want them to remember you in future, it helps to have actually read some of their work and be able to offer a brief comment. Something like, "I loved the twist at the end of bla-bla." Or, "Character X in bla-bla reminded me so much of my Uncle Jack, it was fun spending time with him."

Something like that. Not a generic, "I love your work," because that's usually code for I-never-heard-of-you-before-but-please-tell-me-the-secret-to-getting-published.

Bestsellers hear that. A lot.

Shadow_Ferret
04-21-2007, 08:52 AM
I've been conversing with a best selling author regulary now---She calls when she has time and I just listen mostly...but she has given me a lot of insight, asks questions and offers advice, but I would never expect her to get me through any door.

Wow. How do you get in that door? I'd love that!

*standing around the watercooler smoozing at work and cellphone rings. Glances at the caller ID*

"I've got to take this. It's Stephen King." *flip* "Hey, Steve, how's it going?"

That would be so cool.

johnzakour
04-21-2007, 08:54 AM
Authors are authors not publishers or agents, don't expect them to open any publishing doors for you. Your books live or die on their own merits not what other authors think of them.

I had a few email conversations with Douglas Adams, we just talked about writing in general. Not once did I even consider asking him, "Will you read my work?" Wasn't his job. Besides even if he loved it, it wouldn't have mattered as far as the big picture was concerned because he didn't have the power to publish it.

blacbird
04-21-2007, 09:01 AM
There isn't a way. The whole scenario intimidates la merde out of me.

The list of people with whom this has played out includes Kurt Vonnegut, William Styron, Ray Bradbury, Anthony Burgess, and John Irving and Raymond Carver, both of whom I took classes from. Tracy Kidder I was a co-student with, met him again a couple of years ago, and it was intimidating. It's hard to feel comfortable amid such idols when you've been utterly, galactically, unsuccessful at the writing endeavor.

In the U.K., some 15 years ago or so, I lived within walking distance of E. M. Forster's house, used to jog past it four or five times a week. That was intimidating. The jog took me for a mile or so on a footpath along the south shore of the Thames, right where Jerome K. Jerome and his two buddies from Three Men in a Boat punted on their hilarious holiday. That intimidated me. That particular town, by specific mention, was destroyed by H. G. Wells's Martians in The War of the Worlds.

That really intimidated me.

caw

The Grift
04-21-2007, 09:09 AM
Wow. How do you get in that door? I'd love that!

*standing around the watercooler smoozing at work and cellphone rings. Glances at the caller ID*

"I've got to take this. It's Stephen King." *flip* "Hey, Steve, how's it going?"

That would be so cool.

See, if you knew him you would be aware that all his friends call him "The 'Ven" or just "Ven." It's a thing we have.

:hat: :ROFL:

willietheshakes
04-21-2007, 09:12 AM
I work with bestselling authors (and some not so bestselling) as part of my day job. You wanna know the secret? They're JUST LIKE REAL PEOPLE! Some of them are friendly, and love to chat, and some of them are complete assholes who I would wish dead, were I not afraid of tempting karma in that regard.

If you have a chance to meet them, say hello. If you liked their work, say so. If you liked their reading, say so. If you're stymied, ask them if its their first time in your town, or how they're enjoying their visit. Make a little small talk and you'll quickly get a feeling as to whether you should offer to buy them a drink or if you should just fade into the wallpaper...

If you're only doing it to get your foot in some fabled door, though, forget it. As others have said, you stand or fall on your own merits...

blacbird
04-21-2007, 09:17 AM
I work with bestselling authors (and some not so bestselling) as part of my day job. You wanna know the secret? They're JUST LIKE REAL PEOPLE!

Like hell they are. Real people, like my neighbors Bill Lasher and Ken Rice, couldn't write a book that shows up in dozens in every Borders and B&N in the country, and gets translated into twenty languages, to save their lives.

Sort of like me.

caw

Toothpaste
04-21-2007, 09:35 AM
By them a drink. I'm serious. Heck buy them two! My friend who has been to lots of these conferences and befriended many authors, always suggests hanging out in the bar of the hotel that the conference is taking place at, because after all the signings and book readings, that's where people congregate. And then just hang, just chat, basically what everyone has already advised you to do. Just enjoy being in the company of some very interesting and intelligent people and having good conversation. (I say this like any of this is easy, it does take some serious guts and my friend is incredibly brave, so got to admire that!)

Johnzakour I can't believe you chatted with my patron saint, I am SO jealous!

Anthony Ravenscroft
04-21-2007, 11:06 AM
A friend of mine spent an entire convention evening chatting with Larry Niven about microbrew beer & tobacco as they drank craft-brewed beer & stuffed their pipes. Though music made an occasional appearance, writing didn't. Still, I bet Niven would remember that conversation.

I'm a natural chatter, & just strike up conversations with people at events, under the assumption "we're all stuck on the same leaky ship," which more often than not makes for lively happy banter. I find I'm safer if I have no idea who the hell they are when I start -- I was literally dumbstruck once to find the nice old guy I was talking to was Fritz Leiber.

blacbird
04-21-2007, 11:32 AM
you stand or fall on your own merits...

Dam.

caw

JeanneTGC
04-21-2007, 01:11 PM
I've met Ben Bova, William F. Nolan, Bruce Holland Rogers, Bob Boze Bell, Bob Mayer, Stephen Mertz...the list goes on and on.

I asked every single one of them for their advice to a writer who wanted to get published. Every single one of them was helpful and interested in sharing tips, suggestions, work ethic, etc. I asked them how they started and got to hear about their struggles and triumphs.

What I never did, at any time, was ask them to look at anything I'd written, unless they offered to or asked me how they could help me in terms of my writing. Yes, some of them did indeed offer that -- and their advice was very helpful.

My RWA chapter is loaded with published authors. They're all wonderful people, but they, like the other authors, are also real people. And they also are very willing to share advice. They're also really willing to share a laugh, a drink, an appetizer or a dessert.

Writers, even hugely successful ones, are real people. Treat them as you'd want to be treated and you'll be fine.

Joe270
04-21-2007, 01:46 PM
I met James Mitchner at my Maritime Academy graduation dinner. It was a brief hello. Later he signed stuff. I jambed maybe fifteen books and the dinner invitation for him to sign. He was great about it, and we got to converse a bit because I loaded him up with so much work. I only said I wanted to be a writer, didn't get into it and had no material to hand off any way.

The next day our ship got underway, and he came aboard for it. I just happened to be the senior cadet of the watch, so we spent about four hours together. Mostly I showed him how we navigated and piloted, but there was so much time for small talk. He was so encouraging. What a blast.

Talk about serendipidy.

Don't push anything, keep it natural, don't sweat it. You might just get a whole lot more time with them than you think.

Best of luck to you, have fun.

pdr
04-21-2007, 06:20 PM
about the two annual writing conferences in NZ is that they are small enough that everyone gets to talk to the guest name authors. You soon get used to the fact that 'name' authors are people exactly like everyone else.

I also interview writers for three writing magazines.
The first time one has to meet and speak with a top selling author is nerve wracking. All I can say to help is that you might remember to fall back on the more formal manners and speech your grandmother taught you. Don't be overfamiliar. Small talk is excellent. Smile and listen.

Everyone has warned you not to ask the 'names' to read your work. Don't talk about your writing either. And don't expect the writer of your favourite novel to be how you imagine. If this is the first time you are meeting name authors you will be disappointed. It's usual for the fan to wonder how this old codger/young fool/stupid twit could have written such a great book. You'll grow out of it.

L.Jones
04-21-2007, 07:12 PM
A book festival doesn't give the opportunity to chat that a conference does, but then again if things are slow, authors often enjoy having people stop to visit at their table.

It's okay to say "any tips for an aspiring writer?" and let them take it from there but you would be wise to have bought a book and have it signed. No one likes to feel they are someone else's means to an end. If you don't want the book, gift it to someone with the story of how you met the author.

Also - stop at the table of a less busy author, esp one in your genre. They often know as much as the best seller and probably have more time to gab. Last year at a festival during a really draggy period a woman started talking to me, who was seated smack dab in the middle of NYT and beyond best sellers. We talked and laughed and seeing this, the other authors wandered over and began to talk too. (Later she blogged about what a nice person i was and everyone should read my book - so that was nice word of mouth). So don't get fixated on just best selling authors, anyone published and invited to a bookfest probably has something interesting to say, just ask.

And buy books.
I meant that.

annie
Luanne Jones
The Southern Comforts, MIra Books -- out May 2, too late for the Ky bookfestivals this year!!
Heathen Girls, Mira Books - out in mass market April 07

maestrowork
04-21-2007, 08:19 PM
Just remember, famous authors are people, too.

The_Grand_Duchess
04-22-2007, 02:38 AM
I'm actully going to this thing tomorrow. I was going to go today but the Duke had something else to do. It's going to be my first time out in two weeks! I'm so excited!

I'm going to be so mad if the weather doesn't hold!

I find this thread to be very intresting becuase I'm kinda wondering what I would say (if anything) to some of these people if I actully had a chance to talk to them. I've met two published authors in my life. One was a huge jerk, major A-hole. The other was very nice,

The nice one? Samul R Deleny. He looks like Santa.

Little Red Barn
04-22-2007, 03:50 AM
Wow. How do you get in that door? I'd love that!

*standing around the watercooler smoozing at work and cellphone rings. Glances at the caller ID*

"I've got to take this. It's Stephen King." *flip* "Hey, Steve, how's it going?"

That would be so cool.

No door has been opened sweetie--I have to kick that in myself. I'm just blessed as I sit within 5 min of two world famous authors...one moves in the same circle of friends I do, another my teen knows from her school.

::kimmi still kicking, may need to do a S.W.A.T. team entry pretty soon:: ;)

DeadlyAccurate
04-22-2007, 05:37 AM
See, if you knew him you would be aware that all his friends call him "The 'Ven" or just "Ven." It's a thing we have.

:hat: :ROFL:

Yeah, but his real friends call him K-Dog.

Raphee
04-23-2007, 12:58 PM
I had the opportunity to meet a famous writer. I went upto him and said that I was a great fan of his work.
The guy looked up and said " Read my wife, she is better." And went back to talking to whoever.
The truth is that I have read his wife and she is better.

herdon
04-23-2007, 01:23 PM
I had the opportunity to meet a famous writer. I went upto him and said that I was a great fan of his work.
The guy looked up and said " Read my wife, she is better." And went back to talking to whoever.
The truth is that I have read his wife and she is better.

You should have said "I agree" and cackled madly.

Tornadoboy
04-23-2007, 06:43 PM
Everybody has already made this point but just treat them like you would anybody you had just met in the street, no pulling a Wayne's World, throwing yourself at their feet and chanting "I am not worthy! I am not worthy!". Aside from their writing talents they are just like everybody else, they wake up with bad breath and pillow hair, drop the F-bomb when they stub a toe and argue with their spouses as to what color the living room should be painted.

And while even the most humble of authors must enjoy the occasional ego-stroking an "Oh my god! I'm your biggest fan! I've read all 8000 of your books, twice! Here, take this tattooing needle and sign my arm!" brings I'm sure simply being treated as "just Stephen" or "just Patricia" must be refreshing as well.

Just don't go into the conversation more interested in what you think they can do for you than with them, if you don't really read or like their books then don't bother them, I'm sure a lot of them can sniff that out right away and it must be a real turn off.

"Yeah I really loved your book about the... uh... you know the guy that killed the uh... you know with that thingy and..."