One last comment re: WiHM and then I'm gone --
You've all heard/seen the mud slinging that sometimes goes on between working mothers and stay at home moms, single moms and married moms, yes?
I've heard people I like very much completely bash the hell out other women from the opposite "perspective," completely losing "perspective" on the bigger picture - that being a PARENT is a hard ass job with all kinds of stresses, worries, and woes. Absolutely, yes, some of those are unique to single parents or married parents, but you know what? Life's like that. I'm sure a single dad has some of the same exact struggles and concerns that I do as a married mom. For that matter, one married mom isn't going to have the same "perspective" as another, and likewise any other assimilation of gender and relationship status. Period. Being a parent is easier when more of us group together than divide ourselves off into a bunch of subgroups.
Likewise, achieving recognition in the creative industry. Why segregate the group? Why not celebrate the genre as a whole? International Horror Writers month or something. Promoting ourselves and our work together, celebrating together we can accomlish so much more than pointing out the differences between us.
My point is simple.
If the story is good, who wrote it won't matter.
Case in point - Mary Shelley.