I need permission for my second draft to still suck. Otherwise I will never move on.
Oh my, well, it can suck for as many drafts as it takes. I don't really go through solid "draft" stages (I mean, I call the first draft done when I hit "the end," but after that it's just a big mess of revision) so I don't keep track of numbers, but I'd suspect my first novel went through maybe...seventeen drafts? Depending on how you count them? I dunno. Some double-digit number...
My second novel...I'm on another draft of it right now. I'd estimate about the ninth or so.
I really don't know. But after I do this one, I'll probably give it to another beta or two, after which I suspect more revision will be in order. Not because I'll intentionally hand them a crappy manuscript or anything, but because the betas always find revisions.
I don't think my third novel will take that many, because I think I'm getting better at this. (I'm still on the first draft for that one.) But still, who knows...
It takes as many drafts as it takes, and there isn't anything wrong with that, particularly for a first novel.
Also, what do you do when most of the people close to you don't believe in you and your work? What if none of them have read any of it and they still don't believe in it? Specifically a significant other... I mean, could it possibly be SO bad that people know it without even having to read it?
No--if they haven't read it, they can't really know. (Well, I guess there could be exceptions, like "It's about a minnow who contemplates life in stream-of-consciousness Sanskrit" or something?)
What do you mean by not believing in it? I mean, if they're saying "you'll never make any money with this," they could be right. If they're saying "you're wasting time with this," that's really not up to them. If they're saying "this particular book won't be any good because it's your first novel" then you say "well, no, it's not great now, but I'm going to work on it until it is." If they're saying "this is a stupid idea" then you say "your FACE is a stupid idea" and shoot them with a marshmallow gun--cause, well, that's not really up to them either. If they don't like the idea, maybe it's not the book for them. Which is fine. No one likes everything.
Or if you just mean their eyes glaze over when you talk about your book...I think that's totally normal. I think talking about your book is kind of like talking about your dreams. In the moment, when you're actually reading it or experiencing the dream, it can be really exciting and interesting, but when you're trying to narrate to someone who hasn't experienced or read it, it's just a bunch of blahblahblah. I mean, *I* generally think summaries of books are boring. I hate reading synopses because I almost always get bored, even if the story is actually great. I'd rather just read the book, know what I mean?
Is your SO generally not supportive of your writing? I mean, if you say "you don't have to like my book, just please understand that this is something I want to do and be supportive of it" will they understand that? I mean, I wouldn't ask the SO to read it--I'd feel like I'm putting a tremendous obligation on them and I wouldn't want that. I'd just want SO to understand that it's important to me, is all. Can you get that far?