When they were young

[glove]

Dont know if this is the right forum. However I've been up since 4:50 trying to get stuff done as its nearly Christmas and all that, and my mind has been wandering back to earlier times when children were younger.
I supervised a weekend sleepover, 5/6 children aged around 6 years of age. Lots of fun to well into the night/early morning. The following week, doing the school run, lots of mums dads teachers were smiling at me as if they knew something i didnt know. The darling angels had filmed me, mouth wide open and snoring, and up loaded it to facebook.

 

[frimble3]

Dont know if this is the right forum. However I've been up since 4:50 trying to get stuff done as its nearly Christmas and all that, and my mind has been wandering back to earlier times when children were younger.
I supervised a weekend sleepover, 5/6 children aged around 6 years of age. Lots of fun to well into the night/early morning. The following week, doing the school run, lots of mums dads teachers were smiling at me as if they knew something i didnt know. The darling angels had filmed me, mouth wide open and snoring, and up loaded it to facebook.

Not only were you a great parent, but you're a good sport as well! May your Christmases be merry and bright!

 

[Helix]

Probably a good opportunity to teach them about consent.

 

[Brigid Barry]

And internet safety and that things that go on the internet are there forever. OP is a better sport than I would have been. I would have been furious.

 

[glove]

And internet safety and that things that go on the internet are there forever. OP is a better sport than I would have been. I would have been furious.

Helix​

Jesus guys. They were six. Give it rest.

 

[Maryn]

Dont know if this is the right forum. However I've been up since 4:50 trying to get stuff done as its nearly Christmas and all that, and my mind has been wandering back to earlier times when children were younger.
I supervised a weekend sleepover, 5/6 children aged around 6 years of age. Lots of fun to well into the night/early morning. The following week, doing the school run, lots of mums dads teachers were smiling at me as if they knew something i didnt know. The darling angels had filmed me, mouth wide open and snoring, and up loaded it to facebook.

Six is plenty old enough to understand consent. When our children were that age, public schools discussed it in age-appropriate ways starting in kindergarten, when most kids are five.

Did a six-year-old know how to put it online in a place where other parents would see it? That sounds to me like a complicit adult.

I, too, would be furious rather than amused and nostalgic.

 

[Stytch]

Helix​

Jesus guys. They were six. Give it rest.

Hooo.... six year olds with access to the internet... I just... need to think about that... mine are 9 and I'm still not allowing them online.

 

[glove]

Six is plenty old enough to understand consent. When our children were that age, public schools discussed it in age-appropriate ways starting in kindergarten, when most kids are five.

Did a six-year-old know how to put it online in a place where other parents would see it? That sounds to me like a complicit adult.

I, too, would be furious rather than amused and nostalgic.

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[Maryn]

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[Brigid Barry]

My kids understood consent by the time they were two and internet safety before they were six. Then again, it's a much different era of parenting.

 

[CMBright]

If there was an adult involved in posting, that individual should definitely know better than to post a video of the person with the person's permission.

Otherwise, if the kid(s) was/were old enough to have learned how to post a video to YouTube, the kid(s) was/were old enough to have learned you don't do that without permission.

That said, our kid was not on the internet at six, unless it was supervised at school.

 

[Helix]

Helix​

Jesus guys. They were six. Give it rest.

No. Feel free to put me on ignore, but I reiterate -- this was a good opportunity to talk about consent.

 

[Helix]

And just to make it clear, discussions of consent are for their sakes not yours.

 

[Maryn]

I agree with that. Young children need to understand that they have autonomy and it shouldn't be violated without their consent. They're allowed to refuse to be kissed, have their picture taken, or sit on Uncle Jeff's lap.

 

[Friendly Frog]

The kids may have been too young to know better, but the adults, whooo boy, would get a serious side-eye from me from now on. They chose to smirk in your face instead of informing you of your privacy being compromised for someone's entertainment. Classy.

And I agree, definitely time for some discussions about consent. For the kids' own sake as well as that of others. School bullies have already found the way online to hound their victims now even after class. Far too many kids have taken their own life for something that was posted about them online without their consent. It's not a kindness to let kids be ignorant of the dangers once they move online.