Gena! Now here I am, trying to take you seriously, and you say something like this. If you were to strap on wings and try it, you know what that basically makes you? Stipid. (Yes, I spelled it correctly, and yes, it means stupid.) As my mother would say, "If she jumped off a bridge, would you try it too?" <G>
Here's another way to look at it:
You are not learning the lessons that these people have to teach you. Some of those lessons are:
The PA system is designed against you. You will order books that may not arrive. They will add errors to your book. The name itself is a strike against you. (The website that accepted your book when not accepting your self-pubbed friend probably hasn't figured out what PA is yet. A writers' organization I belong to used to count PA books as making a writer "published." They don't do that anymore, not since all the evidence about PA has come out.) Booksellers will turn their noses up at you.
When we do not learn from history (the history of these PA authors here), we are destined to repeat the same mistakes.
You are not in a position at the moment to firmly shore up your position, either. Come back after the book has been released, after you've gotten your first royalty check. We might believe you've had a "positive PA experience" more at that point.
Ummmm....okay, so you would try to fly but you wouldn't try to get your book into the local bookstores even with Simon and Shuster as your publisher??? Makes no sense to me. What makes you think, then, that will be any different if you sign your second book contract with a bigwig publisher?
Also, S&S have SELLERS who would do that for you, so you don't have to worry about it
If you decide to try to fly, I suggest not flying too closely to the sun.
Susan G.