max, it's good you approached, but I have to wonder if your subconscious was sold on the idea.
Baby steps still get you nearer your goal, of course. Next time, carry enough to purchase a beverage--not necessarily alcoholic, but something you'd pay for--and to leave a decent tip. If it's a fancy place, expect to pay a ridiculous amount. You're not just paying for the beverage but for the LGTB-friendly ambiance.
Maryn, glad to see progress (and curious about Kuwi's first such visit)
Yes, it's that I have usually being someone very independent when it comes to group and many, many of the LGTB crowd I have met on campus usually come off to me somewhat shallow, or at least those who are more outspoken about their orientation.
And part of me wonders, what exactly are you looking with this?