Hello, I'm sure this isn't the appropriate place for greeting, but I'm at lost for a proper introduction, plus I found this site while looking for a place to rant about my erotica book peeves.
I'm a lurker, and really only came on this site because I would like to improve on my erotica, more than anything else, but I might start branching out into other sections of Absolute Write when the time calls for it.
You'll find me in this section a lot (or romance) as that's the genre I write about a lot, or mainly because it's what I need help in the most. This might make me sound sad and desperate, but I've never had a relationship before, and I never had
relations, if you get what I'm saying, but (and yes, I'm tooting my own horn here) I think I can write a pretty steamy, not at all virgin influenced, love scene; my problem is, I have no idea how to write real relationships!
I love making my stories as realistic as possible (not to mention as quirky, unique, and silly as possible) but it's hard to make a strange, quirky romantic relationship when one has never experienced a romantic relationship in the first place. Of course, most of my ideas come from my imagination, other romance stories, and pure common senses (not to mention fantasies), but at time I get stuck on how a significant other would react to their significant other during certain circumstances (I'm being vague here for the sake of generalization).
I don't know what happens when couples fight and make up, I don't know what happens when couples first realize they love each other, or when they feel neglected, and all that good stuff; my family and friends aren't writers, so I can't ask them what sounds good in a story (the majority of them either hate reading, or loves Mary Sues, so... ya know), I do base some actions off of the relationships of people around me (and that's not good, for a completely different reasons being that they are all practically bad relationships, but I'm digressing), but I'm not in my family and friends relationships 24/7, not to mention I'm not personally involved, so a lot of reasons and emotions is left out on my part, so I lose the experience, if I even gain any.
I may come on to this site to ask what might be realistic in certain relationship "events", how someone might handle a certain situation that they're dealing with their lover. Right now I have a story that involves a married couple, and they have a rather "quirky" relationship with each other, but I'm not sure how to express it during the story. I'll explain more when I actually have a question for help in my head, but right now, I'm glad I found this site, it looks really nice.