ROTFL. Its funny you guys said that, because yesterday he told me he doesn't want to love me, but he 'doesnt have a choice'. Maybe he'll fall gradually out of love with me so there's no pain at the end...
Married couples...hm...
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When I was in my early 20s, I never thought I’d be the marrying type. I was too wild, partied all the time, and didn’t want to share my space with anyone, both figuratively and literally. But this ideal went out the window when I met my husband at the age of 29. 
I had been around the block a few times and knew a keeper if I came across one; I’ve always been a good judge of character. My husband defied every stereotype that I had about a husband: He was (and still is) fun, crazy, sexy, cute, and the non-corporate type, he’s an artist (and not a starving artist). But I had to make sure that when the “honeymoon” period was over, he’d still be someone that I could be interested in, in a practical way, so I looked for all the signs. The signs are usually there from the beginning, most women just don’t pay attention to them. If he was a jerk, he would have revealed it to me early on. All I had to do was pay attention, and I did.
You can have a happy fulfilling marriage if you marry the person that’s right for you. To me, love is not enough, although it’s a prerequisite. You have to meet on a different level, on almost every level, and be able to give up half of yourself. Before my husband, I’d been proposed to three times, and I turned them down. There were some things about them that I couldn’t live with, and character traits that didn’t mesh well with mine.
My husband and I are very close. During the first two years of our marriage, we both worked from home, so we bonded strongly. My mother always tell me that I’m infatuated with him––and she’s right. I worship the ground he walks on, and still get giggly when he comes home from work. After four years, we still have no children (by choice), so we can always be spontaneous, which we often are. He’s my best bud, my husband, my lover––and a cool dude to be around!
I hate to step on any toes, but I’d say, make sure you marry the person you can live with.
I had been around the block a few times and knew a keeper if I came across one; I’ve always been a good judge of character. My husband defied every stereotype that I had about a husband: He was (and still is) fun, crazy, sexy, cute, and the non-corporate type, he’s an artist (and not a starving artist). But I had to make sure that when the “honeymoon” period was over, he’d still be someone that I could be interested in, in a practical way, so I looked for all the signs. The signs are usually there from the beginning, most women just don’t pay attention to them. If he was a jerk, he would have revealed it to me early on. All I had to do was pay attention, and I did.
You can have a happy fulfilling marriage if you marry the person that’s right for you. To me, love is not enough, although it’s a prerequisite. You have to meet on a different level, on almost every level, and be able to give up half of yourself. Before my husband, I’d been proposed to three times, and I turned them down. There were some things about them that I couldn’t live with, and character traits that didn’t mesh well with mine.
My husband and I are very close. During the first two years of our marriage, we both worked from home, so we bonded strongly. My mother always tell me that I’m infatuated with him––and she’s right. I worship the ground he walks on, and still get giggly when he comes home from work. After four years, we still have no children (by choice), so we can always be spontaneous, which we often are. He’s my best bud, my husband, my lover––and a cool dude to be around!
I hate to step on any toes, but I’d say, make sure you marry the person you can live with.
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special needs said:
When a relationship falls apart, no one walks away unscathed, no matter the reasons. And you finding humor in this tells me the end will be fiery and painful for both of you.
There's nothing funny about manipulating someone's feelings. This smacks of someone who either loves having power (and wielding that power) over another person, or someone who's just having fun getting a little attention on an internet board.
Hannah said:When I was in my early 20s, I never thought I’d be the marrying type. I was too wild, partied all the time, and didn’t want to share my space with anyone, both figuratively and literally. But this ideal went out the window when I met my husband at the age of 29.
I had been around the block a few times and knew a keeper if I came across one; I’ve always been a good judge of character. My husband defied every stereotype that I had about a husband: He was (and still is) fun, crazy, sexy, cute, and the non-corporate type, he’s an artist (and not a starving artist). But I had to make sure that when the “honeymoon” period was over, he’d still be someone that I could be interested in, in a practical way, so I looked for all the signs. The signs are usually there from the beginning, most women just don’t pay attention to them. If he was a jerk, he would have revealed it to me early on. All I had to do was pay attention, and I did.
You can have a happy fulfilling marriage if you marry the person that’s right for you. To me, love is not enough, although it’s a prerequisite. You have to meet on a different level, on almost every level, and be able to give up half of yourself. Before my husband, I’d been proposed to three times, and I turned them down. There were some things about them that I couldn’t live with, and character traits that didn’t mesh well with mine.
My husband and I are very close. During the first two years of our marriage, we both worked from home, so we bonded strongly. My mother always tell me that I’m infatuated with him––and she’s right. I worship the ground he walks on, and still get giggly when he comes home from work. After four years, we still have no children (by choice), so we can always be spontaneous, which we often are. He’s my best bud, my husband, my lover––and a cool dude to be around!
I hate to step on any toes, but I’d say, make sure you marry the person you can live with.
Sounds like my marriage. Only we've been wonderfully happy for almost 7 years now.
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aadams73 said:
Amen. Prettyspecialgal had important input on page two, as well.
Other than that... methinks me smells troll. Might be time for me to hit the ol' 'Ignore' button again.
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Out of all the posts I've had on this board, I think I lost my temper once maybe twice. And it is not a male/female issue for me. I have read many of Special Needs posts, even where she has called herself a certified psychopath. I know a bit of her history, at least what she has stated here. Male or female wouldn't matter when I'm familiar with many past posts of this person. My comment was not based on this one post, but on many of her posts. She does have issues she needs to work out and she shouldn't do them while some poor guy's heart is on the line. If using tact is sugar coating, well then I am guilty of it but I don't think I'd have said it any different in this same situation if the poster was a male.
Here's just a segment of one of her posts that give a glimpse into her emotional state. I'm sorry, male or female, it would take a lot to get me to 'explode' as a result of what someone with this history and these problems says.
Link to entire post, post number 33: http://www.absolutewrite.com/forums/showthread.php?t=25787&page=2&pp=25&highlight=toilets+womenspecial needs said:
I have nothing against Special Needs. I see no reason to explode. I stand by what I said. She has issues, issues that need to be worked out before she considers marriage.
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