(underlining mine)
I'm not calling you out specifically, your post just helps me make a point.
The underlined is pretty much the crux of the points being made in this thread. When things are really and truly ingrained into everyday life, we DON'T notice most, or even any of them. It's subtle, and often comfortable, because it's the norm.
People notice deviation, not maintenance.
Dude - what anonymous? Nearly everyone here has links either in their signature or their profile that connect to their online profiles on social media. Using a screen name doesn't make you anonymous.
Agree about the subtly, not direct but so implied it drips menstrual blood. For instance, their support by increased air time for of anti-female political issues i.e. abortion rights etc.
I am not a dude. I've got the girl parts. You caught me before the edit. It was a mean thing to say so I edited it so as not to inflame the inflamers anymore.
I think part of the great difficulty is educating the people who don't want to be educated. Thoughts?
This is whole point of all my posts, thank you. It is near impossible - but I have to say I do reach people sometimes. But again my point was, I rather expend my efforts on those who want to hear what I have to say - I can help/save/protect/educate etc. them. The others, I have decided, for the sake of my mental health and ability to help others, I can not.
But a tip - since you asked. You have to help people separate or see their faulty thinking. People take rape personally. Most people have either been in situations that they could rape or could have been raped and think of all kinds of justifications for their thoughts and fantasies, never mind actions. This is not to say these people are all bad or sexist etc. Rape myths are so cultural imbedded - so mixed with gender politics etc. its hard to unravel.
The problem is people are thinking about rape like normal non-rape people. Rapists (and there are all types) think about rape like a rapist. So for example:
Rape myth - If I, or daughter, wife, all women dress like x they will not be raped. But that means all rapist don't want to rape a nun - some target nuns in garb because of their own personal thought process. Conversely, a rapist may see a prostitute and think this is the way all women should be and dress - ready for male needs. A nun, however, breaks his rule, angers him, and so makes him want to rape - to make her a woman ---- or whatever sick shit is going through his criminal mind.
So I tell people they are not rapists - stop trying to think like one. You cannot prevent rape by 'OUTSMARTING" a rapist.