I read a blog post by Simcha Fisher, where she got a bit annoyed that people accused a famous Catholic author of not writing
Catholic enough books, because her stories included swearing, premarital sex etc. I think Fisher ended up basically saying: that's the world we live in, people -- we don't have to like it, but these are things that happen. And I think I agree with that. We live in an imperfect world. Here everybody has their own heaps of temptations, and sometimes (even quite often) we give in to those temptations and do things that are bad for us. Ours is a world that needs saving. Saints are not saints because they were never tempted or never gave into temptation, but because they loved God and struggled to follow him to the end.
This is why it makes me a little sad to hear that C-publishers are very strict about these things. On one level I understand -- the general culture is so full of these things, that maybe they want Christian fiction to be a "safe haven" of sorts. But I feel like we're missing something if we ban bunches of themes from Christian fiction. The truth is that gay people exist, and they're not going to stop existing. Ignoring that seems weird. Besides, like all people, they're called to sanctity, and fiction can be a way of exploring what that means.
Just some thoughts I've been chewing on for the past few days.
It seems like self-pubbing may be the only option, but I'd try to dig around a little in the hope that maybe there's a Christian publisher out there who would consider publishing a Christian take on this topic. But that might be wishful thinking.