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Well said, Perks. I'll never understand people who think they can or should tell other people how to live.
Having children is not required in order to live a fulfilling life, and I have to wonder how many people would make different choices in that respect if there wasn't so much societal pressure, guilt, etc. A number of people have admitted to me the only reason they had kids was because of pressure from parents ("We want grandkids!" or "You need to carry on our name!"), not to mention being told repeatedly that you cannot be happy (or know what love is) until you've had children. Hell, my husband and I fell into that, and as a result, we tried for four years before realizing it wasn't what we wanted. I'm just thankful we never succeeded, though I really would like those hellish four years of my life back.
No one should ever be guilted or pressured into having children. That's just asking for a miserable parent who resents their children, and then everyone involved is unhappy. It simply isn't anyone else's decision, and I have absolutely zero patience for anyone who tries to persuade someone else to have kids.
Having children is not required in order to live a fulfilling life, and I have to wonder how many people would make different choices in that respect if there wasn't so much societal pressure, guilt, etc. A number of people have admitted to me the only reason they had kids was because of pressure from parents ("We want grandkids!" or "You need to carry on our name!"), not to mention being told repeatedly that you cannot be happy (or know what love is) until you've had children. Hell, my husband and I fell into that, and as a result, we tried for four years before realizing it wasn't what we wanted. I'm just thankful we never succeeded, though I really would like those hellish four years of my life back.
No one should ever be guilted or pressured into having children. That's just asking for a miserable parent who resents their children, and then everyone involved is unhappy. It simply isn't anyone else's decision, and I have absolutely zero patience for anyone who tries to persuade someone else to have kids.