Pushing It

I submitted to a place in late August and this particular publisher requested my work in early Oct. I reached the 3 month mark and nudged. She got back to me with promising news that she was now passing it around to other editors and waiting to hear back and that she'd get back to me in "a week or so."

Well that was 17 days ago. NOW I KNOW that is not that long ago, but she said a week or so, so I was hoping to hear back then. But now as the days pass I'm thinking I was put on the back burner, or worse just plain forgotten about. I don't feel comfortable nudging again. At least not right now. I thought after a month, so in another 2 weeks or so. But again, I feel uncomfortable constantly nudging and asking. I feel like I'm pushing it too much. But I want to know the outcome, even if it's a rejection. I'm worried I'll never hear back.

Any thoughts on how I should approach this? Should I just keep waiting another couple of months till and nudge then? Or should I just stop nudging? I got so far I'd hate to give up on it. But again, I just don't want to be too pushy.

Yeah, thanks guys. That's what I've been doing. Today is 3 weeks exactly and I know it's not long at all in publishing and right now I don't feel comfortable asking again.

If I don't hear from her after the 2 month mark, I may nudge then. Thanks for the responses.

Yeah, it will be 5 weeks tomorrow. It's like the final countdown, haha. I thought the same thing with that too. So if I can just wait it out another 2 to 3 weeks say? Maybe a nudge would be okay then. Cause by then it will be 2 full months. I know the publishing business is super slow, but this is a bit of a different stage. She seemed to like it enough to pass it around so maybe someone is still reading, who knows.

I'm keeping silent, no nudging right now. It's just too early. I've gotten burned before, being too eager, emailing sooner rather than later and it taught me a good lesson. Try to be as patient as possible, where as I want it done yesterday. It's such a hard way to live. As I get older though, the waiting starts become normal and very expected.