I can't speak for African Americans, but as a Native American, I can't think of any of my 18+ year old male cousins who haven't been to jail.
I'm from Belfast, so I'll see ya male cousins and raise you....pretty much everyone I grew up with.
Now, being white and female means I'll probably be accused of being 'privileged' by some, but where I grew up people were POOR. And I'm not talking about being on low incomes, I'm talking being so shit poor that for many of the people who lived where we did there was no food in the house, no electricity and hand me downs were a luxury.
That sort of poverty will only ever breed crime. For a lot of the folks I know it wasn't a career choice but born from necessity - steal or starve.
I grew up in, what we affectionately refer to as 'The Troubles', and people were judged on their names, were they lived. No matter how desperate you might have been for work, you wouldn't take a job in certain areas if you had the wrong surname, wrong religion. So, low skilled folks ended up in low skilled jobs in the local area. No one moved out, or moved up. You got a job because you knew someone who worked there already. That was just how things were.
Now, half a mile away from where I grew up, in one of the worst housing estates you can imagine, there were millionaires living in luxury, wanting for nothing. That sort of thing can lead to resentment.
I remember the first of our neighbours to get a car - that was a HUGE deal. Or getting heating put in, or a telephone.
People growing up in that environment, who don't know anything else, suffer long term. It's hard to break out of that cycle.
We all went to the primary school on the estate - which is still there. There were 35 kids in my class and most of our teachers were scared of them. These were kids who were used to having to fight tooth and nail for everything in their lives and they weren't scared of an adult they knew wasn't allowed to touch them. At least there were free school means for the kids who couldn't afford them, and grants to pay for uniforms and supplies. So that was a big help to a lot of people. We also got free milk every day at school, which was often the only real calcium source that some of those kids had. Now, the meals weren't great, and they were pretty heavy handed with the potatoes, but they were hot and there was plenty of it.
As a result of a combination of this, most of the kids I went to school with had dropped out of school by 16 with no qualifications. Some of them ended up in prison, some of them ended up dead before they were 20. I was the first person in my family to go to university. Hell, I was the first person in my street to go. The only one of my childhood friends who even stayed at school until 18.
Now, this is JUST the effects of poverty. You combine that with poor local education systems and issues with race and nationality and you have a serious problem in many areas.
Currently we don't have a comprehensive schooling system here - so you can chose which school to send your kids to within reason. If we go to a comprehensive system then you have to send your kids to the closest school, places permitting, or send them private. That then means that, in socially deprived areas, you will have a single education choice, which will be full of other socially deprived people, often underfunded, and without a doubt lacking the best quality of teachers - after all, how many people chose a bad school in a bad area as their first choice when taking a job?
When we add race, religion and nationionality and even gender into the mix, it gets even worse. The fact of the matter is that a huge majority of non-white people in white areas have, at some stage in their families history, been immigrants - and not always voluntarily. Slavery was only abolished in the UK in 1833, and I believe 1865 in the US. That's only 150 years ago. My grandparents are pushing 100, so their parents would have been around for those times. Compare that with the fact that it can take many generations to break out of a poverty cycle - and that's without the associated negative social attitudes towards race etc - and it's hardly any wonder that so many minority races are struggling with extreme poverty, social deprivation and an increased chance of crime etc.
Another issue to add is the effects that being a woman caused on the family finances. The Civil service here wouldn't employ married women, and up until the 1970's/80's, if you got married you had to leave your job. So now you add gender discrimination to a period where we had depression, strikes and the closure of many factories and pits where low paid, low skilled male workers earned the only income in their family.
Statistically speaking you are more likely to be a single parent if you come from a low income family to begin with, and being a single parent puts you at a further statistical likelihood of continuing to live, or ending up living in extreme poverty. I know a lot of media sources like to bang on about the 'easy life' of living off benefits, but I can tell you from personal experience that it's completely shit - both physically and mentally. There are very few things that can make you feel as worthless and useless as trying to feed and clothe your kids yourself and try to improve your own employment prospects on a mere £70 a week. Work and you lose your benefit, study and you struggle with crippling childcare costs. The system we have KEEPS poor people in poverty because they can't afford to get out of it.
What makes it tough to talk about is that many white people who'd like to think they're part of the solution don't like hearing about it when their own pre-conceptions and biases are also part of the problem.
I don't really like these sort of generalisations, but I do understand what you are saying. That said, where I used to live, being white and English speaking firmly put me in the minority when it came to my neighbours.
For what it's worth, I don't think it's just white people who struggle to comprehend many of these issues and difficulties.
Actually I was a nanny to the oober rich back in the day and you'd be quite suprised! Land rich and cash poor comes to mind! One family I worked for the kids lunch every day was two chopped tomatoes, chopped onion, and a teeny tiney bit of feta cheese. This is what the three kids, and I, ate every day at lunch for a full year. NOW this may be more nutitious than eating chips and hotdogs for lunch, but not by much.
I know several of those type of families. It's not poverty that makes rich people do this, it's modern faddy thinking usually.
If you haven't visited and seen the requests for simple things like
children's books in the room of an inner city elementary because the school doesn't have enough in the library, you should visit and donate. It'll break your heart to read about a teacher who is assigned just ONE REAM of copy paper (500 sheets) to last the entire school year and is just asking to get a case of paper to share with the kids for drawing and copying chapters out of textbooks (because there are only enough textbooks to keep in the rooms, so kids cant't take them home), or a wish for a microscope because there's not a single one in the rural K-12 school.
Or sports equipment because there are only adult sized balls available for little kids who can't handle them and get frustrated. I know first hand about these particular kinds of requests because I helped fund them, or funded them in full. That's the nice part about Donors Choose--you can just give a few dollars if that's all you have. Many individual dollar donations can buy desperately needed books (or musical instruments, or goggles for science experiments.) made unreachable by poverty schools when you have to buy 20-30 of each item.
That's a really great cause, and I wonder if there is something locally like that here. I know that my daughters school, which isn't well off and is very small, relies on a lot of help from outside - the year before last the school did a lot of it's own fundraising, parents and local people helped to buy the kids a big climbing frame thing, and parents provided the growing corner and plants etc.
Isn't that called a Greek salad? Feta cheese ain't cheap. I remember being in lower middle class and in the bottom of the 90s, I brought nothing but crackers because that was all we had in the house after I couldn't get at the bread to make sandwiches. There was no cafeteria in the school (most schools in Alberta do not have cafeterias save for high schools.)
My daughters school doesn't have a cafeteria / canteen. But there is only 60 of them and I guess it just wasn't financially viable as the school expanded. I haven't heard of it in any of the bigger schools locally, but I guess it's only a matter of time. Canteens are big and land is expensive. I guess it's just another way to save money. Most of the schools round here don't have any sort of playing fields etc for sports and tend to pool their resources or have to pay to use local leisure facilities.