And I'll agree with the women here on this, as well:
The fact that
I am OK with some strange men sometimes addressing me on the street
does not mean that it's advisable for men to do this. It's clear -- it freaks a lot of women out no matter what the context, especially if they've had a bad experience. Now you know, if you didn't before.
No matter how nice your intentions and even your actions, you don't know her -- you don't know whether she's me, or a woman who's, say. had a guy take her hair by his teeth on the bus. (Gaah! What a terrible story!) So I'd think twice about doing it, if I were you. Or perhaps do a robeaie, and only do it when there's a context for conversation (the line at Starbucks, for example). That is what I would advise my son, if I had one, or a male friend looking for guidance.
That said, now I have to tell a pleasant story of when I thought I had an intrusive catcall situation, and in fact it turned out quite nice.
I was in Porto, Portugal, a couple of months back, alone. I was walking past a sidewalk cafe, and a guy sitting there called (in accented English) "Miss! Hey Miss! Hello?" And I knew he was addressing me.
I started to do my usual expressionless I-can't-hear-you walk-by, when I caught a glimpse of him in my peripheral vision. And immediately recognized him. Earlier that morning, in a completely different section of town, I'd taken a long tram ride. A little Portuguese boy had started chatting to me a mile a minute, regardless of the fact that I couldn't understand a word he was saying. Amused, this guy, who was sitting near us, translated. We had a fun little half hour on the tram between the three of us, the kid's mother (who also spoke no English) smiling the whole time. So cute. We didn't introduce ourselves, though, and we went our separate ways after the tram.
Anyway. Once I realized I'd met the guy, I decided to stop and say hello. My gut on the tram was that he was not only safe, but cool. To make a long story short, I spent the rest of the afternoon with him having coffee and taking a stroll with him, and we had a lovely time before we parted ways. He was incredibly well-traveled and well-read, and a marvelous conversationalist. I don't do small talk. He didn't either. Too bad we live on different continents. By the way, he made not a single leering comment, and he did not attempt to take it anywhere past the nice conversation. Actually, he was leaving town that night (he was traveling, too). This wasn't a pick-up -- it was a mutual "you seem fun, let's talk."
But that's me. I would not EVER condemn another woman for continuing to walk right past the guy, even if she recognized him. I get it. However nice he seemed, he might have been a creep, and I was taking a chance. I
personally felt OK as long as we were in public places, among others. I would not have asked him back to my hotel room, or gone into a dark alley with him, cuz, yanno, stranger, but I felt perfectly fine having coffee with him.
But that's me.
If I had walked on by, and the guy yelled nasty stuff at me for doing so,
that would make him an asshole. Because I'd be perfectly within my rights to ignore him.
ETA:
I hope this is clear. I am
NOT in any way belittling or condemning women for being cautious.
At. All.