My MC cries a lot. False tears. He does it a) to get stuff b) to avoid punishment. Always out of cold calculation. Not sure if it counts.
This puts me in mind of an interesting piece of advice in Orson Scott Card's Characters & Viewpoint:
'If your characters cry, your readers won't have to; if your characters have good reason to cry, and don't, your readers will do the weeping.'
... As a result, I'm trying to have my characters cry only if I think it is genuinely required by the context and their personalities.
Only when people are dying in their arms. Or if one brother is forced to chop off the other's head.
Lyx
I guess to me it feels so intrusive--like you're telling the reader how to feel instead of drawing them to that conclusion.
I don't see how you can exempt characters from the action of crying without also excluding laughing, being insulting and rude, yelling, hugging, smiling, frowning, sighing, getting violent, etc--in short, all reactions that express emotions.
Why would you ever want to? It's arbitrary and has more to do with our cultural mores than the craft of writing.
One of my MCs cries a fair amount in reaction to traumatic events. She also laughs a lot. She is strong, feels deeply, and is uninhibited. (An emotional, yet strong character. Isn't this the type of complex character we are always touting as writers.) Many cultures may have issues with that--including Anglo-Saxon culture--but there is nothing intrinsically impossible or wrong about it.
'If your characters cry, your readers won't have to; if your characters have good reason to cry, and don't, your readers will do the weeping.'
I like to interpret this, that the reader cries due to poor storytelling, where characters don't express emotion where they should.
Yeah. The attitude against crying in our culture is stupid and unhealthy. I'm certainly not going to let it influence my writing, especially since my main WIP is set on another world with completely different attitudes.I don't see how you can exempt characters from the action of crying without also excluding laughing, being insulting and rude, yelling, hugging, smiling, frowning, sighing, getting violent, etc--in short, all reactions that express emotions.
Why would you ever want to? It's arbitrary and has more to do with our cultural mores than the craft of writing.
One of my MCs cries a fair amount in reaction to traumatic events. She also laughs a lot. She is strong, feels deeply, and is uninhibited. (An emotional, yet strong character. Isn't this the type of complex character we are always touting as writers.) Many cultures may have issues with that--including Anglo-Saxon culture--but there is nothing intrinsically impossible or wrong about it.
I agree that frequent fits of hysterical sobbing will probably get annoying, if only because they're going to tend to bring the whole scene to a screeching halt.I agree with allowing characters express emotions in a natural way, but I think this advice is aimed at those writers who have their characters indulge in uncontrollable fits of sobbing and/or hysterics and expect that to make the reader feel emotional, too. But it tends to have the opposite effect. Which is why scenes involving deep, huge emotions need to be written with restraint.
I heard a very interesting remark a while ago: "Tears only come for the smallest of sorrows." If you've lived through traumatic events, you'll know that it takes some time for you to be able to cry when you think of them. Most of the time you'll just be sitting there with your chest tight and your eyes wide open, wishing for the tears to come. That's what I have my characters do in important moments. When they do cry, it shows that they have begun to accept what happened.
I guess to me it feels so intrusive--like you're telling the reader how to feel instead of drawing them to that conclusion. Words like "tears, wept, sobbed," etc. have me automatically reaching for the backspace button.
But then again, I've read books where it felt perfectly natural.
How do you deal with it?
-Hj