I think the horrifying part to me is not that one particular woman chose not to have kids to concentrate on her career -- everyone gets to make their own choices.
It's the continuing bollocks narrative of you can't be female, and have both kids and a career. Why in hell not? Men do. I do, in part because my Old Man has done as much childcare as I have. Like the rest of our life, we split things equally. The only reason that a woman might have trouble carving a career at the same time as having kids is because the father isn't pulling his weight. OK, there might be others - I imagine being a miner while pregnant would be a worry. But writing? It's not like there's any heavy lifting involved.
ETA: Even if the parents are split up, a father or non primary guardian can still pull their weight. Maybe in time, maybe in money so the primary can get some childcare. Something.
It's the continuing bollocks narrative of you can't be female, and have both kids and a career. Why in hell not? Men do. I do, in part because my Old Man has done as much childcare as I have. Like the rest of our life, we split things equally. The only reason that a woman might have trouble carving a career at the same time as having kids is because the father isn't pulling his weight. OK, there might be others - I imagine being a miner while pregnant would be a worry. But writing? It's not like there's any heavy lifting involved.
ETA: Even if the parents are split up, a father or non primary guardian can still pull their weight. Maybe in time, maybe in money so the primary can get some childcare. Something.
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