Could you please elaborate here a bit more? thanks
I think it'e been well covered in my absence but...
When a Big Thing happens to you, then two things occur
One, your body responds -- adrenalin, tears, trembling hands etc. These appeal because they seem like shows, and are of a kind, but they get old quick.
Two -- you "show" it in what you
do in response to the stimulus, in your actions. And those actions that you do in response are you "you" in a way that a tear running down a cheek or a clenched fist are not (There are places for that tear or that fist, especially showing a non POV character. But if you go past the stock, then you get into
character not involuntary response)
Today, I was happy because I found out I am probably (95%)
not being made redundant, after being told I would 100% be redundant a week ago. Pharrell Williams came on the radio singing "Happy" and me and my boss sang along and shimmied, very badly, around the shop (and got caught doing so by a customer
)
When I am cross I slam doors, shove laundry into the machine with excessive force and slap cups down so the tea slops out. I almost never shout. Sometimes if I am very angry indeed, I can't talk properly -- I stammer because I am too angry to force the words out, and then that makes me even crosser. (If I cry it is almost always because of this. Because I am ANGRY)
When my bipolar plays up and I get depressed, big time, I do not cry (or rarely). I withdraw. When I sit anywhere I am hunched into myself, curled up into a ball to make myself invisible to the world. I sit and stare at things without seeing them
When I am frightened (and sometimes with the bipolar I get extreme anxiety) I say fuck you and do it anyway.
Other people will show their happiness/crossness/sadness in other ways, and it is how you show those ways that shows us their character. Not their involuntary bodily reactions -- they have no control over those -- but their voluntary ones
And
that is (one of the ways) where you and your writing become unique.
Anyone can be sad and shed a tear, or be afraid and tremble or whatever. People's bodies and their reactions to emotional stimulus are pretty similar*. That's not to say never use the bodily reactions, but that the actual
actions are much more powerful, less stock/cliche
* Ofc if your character has an odd bodily reaction to a stimulus...