... the ol', "she said no, but her body said yes."
Good g*d, what tripe !
Knowing that this is wrong and bad IRL but still enjoying reading/thinking about it is like, a huge part of fiction, isn't it?
I think this is true, but it comes down to expectations. If I buy a work of erotica by an author who I know writes rape fantasy stuff, or even a style of romance where I expect the thing is initial resistance followed by passionate surrender, then that's one thing. I deliberately sought this out because I was reading to appease a particular fantasy, however unrealistic.
I think the problem is when a writer decides to cross genre boundaries with rape tropes, either through design or ignorance (maybe he or she really thinks it's a good thing for women to fall for their rapists, or than sympathetic men can commit rape, or that real life women shrug it off, like in Friday).
Sometimes I think in romance, there's a subtle pressure to be more and more outrageous.
I think a lot of dubious consent, etc, fantasies come about because there's often a disconnect between what you consciously think you should want and what your body sets up cravings for.
If a reader can't psychologically give herself/himself permission to want kinky, transgressive sex, then it's helpful (in the quest to get their rocks off) for them to set up a fantasy built around a loophole: the problematic decision gets taken out of their hands. Then the reader can (vicariously, in the fantasy) enjoy the kinky sex without thinking less of themselves for enjoying it. In their mind, they didn't do anything "wrong".
I think the psychology behind rape fantasies is much more complex than this. Not saying that it might not be true in some cases, but I think it implies that all women can be "cured" of these fantasies by being less repressed. It really begs the question: do we think that women shouldn't have these kinds of fantasies at all? Or is the problem when these fantasies don't stay in the bedroom?
It's not rhetorical question; I'm really curious what you all think.
I found this article, which looks like it addresses the different theories about why so many women have rape fantasies from a scholarly pov, but alas, it is behind a pay wall (and I'm sorry, 39 bucks for one article is a bit ridiculous). I may have to find out if my college's library has access to this journal, because it looks interesting.
For the purposes of the present review, the term ‘‘rape fantasy’’ will follow legal definitions of rape and sexual assault (Corpus Juris Secundum, 2002). This term will refer to women’s fantasies that involve the use of physical force, threat of force, or incapacitation through, for example, sleep or intoxication, to coerce a woman into sexual activity against her will, that is, against the will of the character she identifies with in the fantasy. Thus rape fantasies contain three key elements: force, sex, and nonconsent.
Romance novels, which account for 40% of mass paperback sales in the United States (Salmon & Symons, 2003), are erotic love stories written almost exclusively by women for a female audience, and it is not uncommon for these novels to include themes of rape. One review of historical romance novels found that 54% included the rape of the lead female character (Thurston, 1987). In particular, Hazen’s (1983) analysis of rape in romance novels also functions as a theory of women’s erotic rape fantasies.
In male fiction, the challenge takes the form of a violent confrontation with an evil adversary. In romance novels, there is often a violent confrontation with a dominant, sexually aggressive adversary who appears to be evil. The chal- lenge for the heroine is to conquer his heart, seduce him into falling in love with her, have him voluntarily make a lifetime commitment to her, and transform his apparent evil and cruelty into something more socially acceptable without diminishing his masculinity.
I really believe you have to be careful how you handle a rape scene. It has to be realistic, and what I hate most is when the raped woman then falls in love with the man who raped her.
I remember being 1000% impressed when a cartoon addressed it.
"Your lips say 'no,' but your eyes say--"
"Leave?"
Stuck with me so much I've remembered it for about 10 years.
And Luke and Laura on General Hospital? I remember so many girls in school just sighing and swooning the day after they'd gotten married on the show.Like in Flowers In The Attic?
Like in Flowers In The Attic?
I didn't think so either, but a number of readers enjoyed the relationship, dysfunctional though it was. Perhaps it's easy to identify with a woman who's attracted to a man even though she knows he's bad for her.
And the novel is by a USA Today bestselling author. I'm guessing if she wants to call this a love story, she gets to do so.
It's difficult to say. I remember reading an interview with an author who said that to her, if a man is your soulmate, your body recognizes that even if your mind doesn't quite get it yet. Therefore, what was important in her novels wasn't that the men raped the women, it was that they gave the women amazing multiple orgasms by doing so. They proved their worth, so to speak.
What book are we talking about, anyway?
I think I will refrain from saying exactly what I think of this...
Hi, long time lurker, casual poster...
What about other genres though? Mystery or crime for example. If the main story is the investigation of the crime, and say the crime is rape / murder. That sort of story would be unlikely to follow the aftereffects of the victim’s rape, especially if the victim was also murdered. What’s everybody’s opinion in that sort of story situation?
I don’t read romance so have not really come across the sorts of things being discussed here. But it made me think about books I have read with rape and they’re usually crime / mystery or horror genre books. I never really thought about this subject much before. I personally wouldn’t be interested in reading about the aftermath and how the victim coped, just because those aren’t the sort of books I like. Not saying that stuff shouldn’t be covered there (for realism’s sake). Just interested in what people think about rape in fiction from that point of view.
Love the way everything that isn't romance suddenly becomes "male fiction" and that romance becomes (via implication, if not stated overtly) something most women read (and to the exclusion of all else). I'm female, and I have always enjoyed reading books where women and girls face obstacles that are not, um, romantic in nature, including armed conflicts with evil adversaries. And the romances I've enjoyed are where the man "conquers" the woman's heart at least as much as the reverse, or where two people who are friends and partners for another reason discover that they love one another. Actually, I can't think of any romances where the woman is following the man around and trying to conquer his heart (there was Forever Amber, but that wasn't really a romance, and there was no HEA). That would come off as sort of pathetic and stalkerish.In male fiction, the challenge takes the form of a violent confrontation with an evil adversary. In romance novels, there is often a violent confrontation with a dominant, sexually aggressive adversary who appears to be evil. The chal- lenge for the heroine is to conquer his heart, seduce him into falling in love with her, have him voluntarily make a lifetime commitment to her, and transform his apparent evil and cruelty into something more socially acceptable without diminishing his masculinity.
Well, I wasn't talking about women specifically, but you're right that my statement was too specific to what I suspect is true for me, rather than universally true.I think the psychology behind rape fantasies is much more complex than this. Not saying that it might not be true in some cases, but I think it implies that all women can be "cured" of these fantasies by being less repressed. It really begs the question: do we think that women shouldn't have these kinds of fantasies at all? Or is the problem when these fantasies don't stay in the bedroom?
It's not rhetorical question; I'm really curious what you all think.
Love the way everything that isn't romance suddenly becomes "male fiction" and that romance becomes (via implication, if not stated overtly) something most women read (and to the exclusion of all else).
Is the graphic-ness of these stories/scenes linked to vocabulary/word choice? Or is it ‘graphic’ because it happens?
I was more objecting to the notion that there is this male fiction that is all a certain way, and there are no women who also like to read stories with more active protagonists, in or out of the romance genre (I'm curious about the assertion that rape is a part of 50% of published romance, too, as the romance writers of America say that "friends to lovers" is the most popular trope in romance, which doesn't sound too rapey).For what it's worth, I didn't read that the way you did. I read it as the readers are largely women. Sort of the converse of what you saw.