On the Etiquette Hell website, which I browse occasionally, someone mentioned going to a birthday party hosted by the person whose birthday it was.
Apparently it's a huge no-no to host your own birthday party, something I'd never heard of before. But what really took me aback was the condemnation - "self-absorbed", "unrealistic", "narcissistic" and "entitled" were just a few of the words used.
I've hosted my own parties and never thought twice about it. In fact, I prefer to do that because I can invite whom I like, cook the food I like and so on.
The suggested alternative in the discussion was to host someone else's party, maybe so they would do the same for you when it was your birthday. But if I decided to host a party for, say, one of my friends who's got about fifteen other friends, they couldn't all fit into my tiny apartment. And none of my friends seemed to have a problem with my hosting my party, which was why it surprised me to see how strongly people felt about this.
So what do you guys think? Is it self-centered to throw your own birthday party (assuming this isn't pot luck or gifts-mandatory)?
Apparently it's a huge no-no to host your own birthday party, something I'd never heard of before. But what really took me aback was the condemnation - "self-absorbed", "unrealistic", "narcissistic" and "entitled" were just a few of the words used.
I've hosted my own parties and never thought twice about it. In fact, I prefer to do that because I can invite whom I like, cook the food I like and so on.
The suggested alternative in the discussion was to host someone else's party, maybe so they would do the same for you when it was your birthday. But if I decided to host a party for, say, one of my friends who's got about fifteen other friends, they couldn't all fit into my tiny apartment. And none of my friends seemed to have a problem with my hosting my party, which was why it surprised me to see how strongly people felt about this.
So what do you guys think? Is it self-centered to throw your own birthday party (assuming this isn't pot luck or gifts-mandatory)?