Thanks for that! completely true and I wish erotica was a lot more diverse...
You and me both. Most of the real women I know who I'd consider sexually attractive to others are built nothing like models, especially by the time they're in their 30s. I'd say they're typically carrying at least 15 extra pounds, if not twice that. Yet they're totally smokin' and furthermore, they know it. They do not lack for romantic attention.
Maryn, who could easily go on a rant here
Maryn, I feel you on the rant.
Here's the thing. I have
tubular breast deformity, which means not only are my breasts far smaller than typical, but they're shaped weird, not the same size, and look...unusual.
I'm about 25-30 pounds overweight.
Thanks to major weight loss a decade ago, I have excess skin hanging off my arms, legs, and abdomen.
Not most people's recipe for "sexy woman."
BUT... I have learned to dress to camouflage the skin, weight problems, and compensate for the lack of boobage. I stand up straight (I didn't used to, which only made things worse). I studied the runway walks on RuPaul's Drag Race and Drag U, and practiced until I could strut with the best of them. I give attitude, not negatively but more "I love myself, if you don't, screw you." And aside from all that, I'm a pretty nice person, care about others, and am intelligent and occasionally humorous.
My husband and my boyfriend, and other men I'm friends with, have told me I'm sexier than most of the women they know. Hubby and my boyfriend might be biased, but the other guys aren't so much. And it's not because I *look* sexier. It's because of who I am and how I present myself.
So hell yes on the needing more diverse body types, etc. in erotic fiction, whether erotic romance or erotica, because people *reading* the stuff might actually be more turned on by reading about people who look like them, knowing that means that they can be sexy too.
This has been your friendly neighborhood "all bodies are beautiful" ranter. We now return you to your regularly scheduled erotica.