So my story isn't a romance, but I've gotten to the point where I'm writing a sex scene, and, well... damn, this is hard! I've read plenty of sex scenes before that really make me cringe, and it looks at though I'm in the process of writing one myself.
My first draft is too trashy. So then I rewrite it, and it's too clinical. My next attempt is just boring. So I up the sexy-ness. Lather, rinse, repeat.
It's not a scene that's meant to be sexy, there's awkward fumbling aplenty, but as soon as I try to write the actual sex, rather than what else is going on (clawing at the sheets, the smell of sweat, etc etc), I just take a step back and think that it's really not That Type of Book, and maybe I should tone it down.
How do you strike the right sort of balance with these things?
My first draft is too trashy. So then I rewrite it, and it's too clinical. My next attempt is just boring. So I up the sexy-ness. Lather, rinse, repeat.
It's not a scene that's meant to be sexy, there's awkward fumbling aplenty, but as soon as I try to write the actual sex, rather than what else is going on (clawing at the sheets, the smell of sweat, etc etc), I just take a step back and think that it's really not That Type of Book, and maybe I should tone it down.
How do you strike the right sort of balance with these things?