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I remember going through the will-I-keep-my-surname thing when I was a youngling and then being really disappointed when someone pointed out that I'd actually be keeping my father's surname.
So of course I wanted to keep my mother's surname, except that that was her fathers surname and it all went to hell in a handcart and I just decided never to get married or talk to anyone ever again.
(I felt better after a cup of tea)
As a person with a hyphenated surname, I am firstly having hurt feelings about all the hate
Er, real-life hyphenate here.
I'm not posh.
(Didn't even know that stereotype existed! Maybe it's a UK thing?)
Never heard the term "double-barreled" before, but I love it and am cheerfully going to steal it.
I don't think poshness has much to do with it, really.
Ha! I was waiting for you to turn up! But we could never be hatin on you for poshness. Mainly coz we all know that Australia (much like the US) has no classsystemanyway...
SRSLY?? I did not know that *feels like she doesn't really know pensul at all* Is it Maths-Pensul?
True. We don't do posh heah. We shootin' our guns and spittin' our tobaccy and fartin' as we gobble da McDonalds.I don't think posh exists in the states, so... never thought you were
Ha! At first I did, but then the AW spellchecker (or my browser spellchecker?) corrected me!!You can have it on one condition - that you spell it BARRELLED like all proper posh people!
WAIT BUNNEH ARE YEW SAYING YEW DON'T KNOW ME AT ALL NAOW???I think there are probably some not-posh ones about, for various reasons (imitating posh people used to be one of those reasons I'm sure) but the only double-barrellers I know are posh.
I suspect I wouldn't have felt so strongly about keeping my surname if it hadn't been an original. I have simply spent too much of my life explaining it to give it up.
I remember going through the will-I-keep-my-surname thing when I was a youngling and then being really disappointed when someone pointed out that I'd actually be keeping my father's surname.
So of course I wanted to keep my mother's surname, except that that was her fathers surname and it all went to hell in a handcart and I just decided never to get married or talk to anyone ever again.
(I felt better after a cup of tea)
Hah! My mother asked me, why do you prefer your father's name to your husband's? And I said, it's MY name. It's the name I've had all my life!
Because husbands are disposable, but dads are for keeps?
I wouldn't change my name if I got married (which I'm 99% certain I won't anyway) because I hope to publish under it, and... it's a kewl name.
D'ya know what tho? If I married someone with the same surname, but spelled differently (there are several variants, and no one ever spells my name correctly) I would take that and double-barrel the crap out of it, so that people at least had a halfway decent chance of spelling ONE of them right
Mostly, I see hyphenated names as some kind of compromise between keeping an unmarried name and changing your name when you get married.
Thanks everyone, much appreciated. I chose the "Digby-Hume" because it's not overly long. And yeah, don't worry about the stereotype thing, as an Englishman familiar with the class system from that end, I'll be careful. The only time I'll be heavy-handed is when I'm mocking it.
By the way, as of right now her first name is Charlotte, but she'll go by "Charlie", so it's not too.... ya know.
Now, my agent wants her to have a hyphenated last name. I was thinking something like "Digby-Hume."
But... my wife said she doesn't like reading hyphenated names in books, because the tongue trips over them and they're clunky to have to read over and over. (Actually, she said "Digby" was posh enough by itself.)
I remember going through the will-I-keep-my-surname thing when I was a youngling and then being really disappointed when someone pointed out that I'd actually be keeping my father's surname.
So of course I wanted to keep my mother's surname, except that that was her fathers surname and it all went to hell in a handcart
Mostly, I see hyphenated names as some kind of compromise between keeping an unmarried name and changing your name when you get married.
My partner and I have talked about changing our surnames when we get married ... to a friend's surname. Just for laughs.
I'm wondering about the "Digby" being posh? - sounds like a good name for a dog.
Mom is Ana Martinez-Hernandez, has kids with John Garcia-Lopez. Their kid is Bobby Garcia-Martinez. He marries Traci Gonzales-Vasquez, their kid is Teresa Garcia-Gonzales. And so on.
I'm wondering about the "Digby" being posh? - sounds like a good name for a dog.
Yes, exactly this! I can't imagine changing my name. It's a rich part of my identity now.
My grandfather had such a name: Forrest Remington Straight. It read two syllables, three syllables, one syllable.
Thanks everyone, much appreciated. I chose the "Digby-Hume" because it's not overly long. And yeah, don't worry about the stereotype thing, as an Englishman familiar with the class system from that end, I'll be careful. The only time I'll be heavy-handed is when I'm mocking it.
By the way, as of right now her first name is Charlotte, but she'll go by "Charlie", so it's not too.... ya know.