emax100
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I'm with you here, and while I may not be quite in agreement with you about the whole culture vs biology debate when it comes to how we sexualize each other, on this much I do agree with you. Dress codes should be able creating an atmosphere of professionalism and respect and when they protest over an inch or every time that is not the best way to do it and saying that it is because of guys staring at them is the wrong way to go about it.But when we're talking about dress code violations at school we're not talking about formality. We're usually talking about the matter of a couple of inches which, on most people you won't be able to tell unless you're staring at their thighs. Which seems kind of like improper behavior... doesn't it?
Honestly? I've been to a couple of those European beaches, and there didn't seem to be any more ogling and leering than there is on a clothed American beach. Actually, unless it was my imagination, it felt like there was less leering (particularly in Sweden), or at least less of the type I'd find offensive and obnoxious.
(That said, I frankly don't think there's anything wrong with looking at people you find attractive. It's when it's done in an ugly, dehumanizing, and disrespectful way that I have the problem. )
In my experience, Europeans in general don't seem to have the same "GAAAH! Breasts! Nudity! GAAAH!" reaction Americans do. I lived in Germany for a bit after college. More than once I saw young people casually undress or change in front of friends of the opposite sex (at the beach, for example). They all thought it was funny that I was much more timid.
Well I am glad to hear this. That said, I think that what constitutes looking at people you find in an attractive way and what does not could be an entirely different subject discussion since people can have drastically different ideas on it. Some might say that if a guy looks for even a couple seconds at an attractive woman on a beach or wearing a low cut blouse and a skirt above the knees in high school, that it is automatically offensive and dehumanizing. Not at all saying that is what you or anyone here necessarily things but for sure some people will say even that is dehumanizing.
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