prostitute mom

Not all prostitutes abort. Some have had children before getting into this line of work. Some have children while in this line of work. The reasons are as varied as the reasons they get into this line of work...

As to loveless sex, if this is in the future, casual sex without emotional attachment might be more the norm than not.

Its your story and you can give any reasons you want for why this and that is acceptable, or...give no reasons because the situation are normal for your world.

Some guys like pregnant sex.
Or she had enough money saved up she could take some time off work once it became a problem.

The older the woman and the unhealthier she is the harder it is to get pregnant. Thats why teenagers can get pregnant very easily but a woman in her thirties finds it harder.
If the prostitute is doing drugs, or is otherwise unhealthy, she may get pregnant a lot, but she'd have a big chance of having a miscarriage in the first 6 weeks before she knew anything was up.
And a lot of prostitutes take birth control. And a lot of johns use condoms. Most men at least in developed countries want to avoid the various STD's common in prostitution.
So pregnancy does happen, but its not that common anymore.

Why would sex be unprotected?

There were various methods of birth control in the Renaissance too you know (both preventative and abortive) For instance condoms were first mentioned in (and were probably around before)1564. Also various herbs were used either prevent conception or for after conception had taken place.

I did have a load of bookmarks about all the birth control methods in use then, but I lost them.

As for what she did with the child - a lot would depend upon her situation. Brothel worker, street walker, courtesan etc...plus whether she has any family. And, of course, what sort of person she is.

Just remember, mom is mom, respect her as a fully rounded character rather than just a source of early life lessons

There are plenty of reasons your character could have a prostitute mum and it make sense...

Many prostitutes did and still do use contraception or protection. In addition, even if they weren't using protection, there's nothing to suggest a prostitute might have got most of their clients from non-vaginal intercourse- oral, anal, handjobs, things that the respectable Renaissance wife wouldn't have been willing to do for her husband.

Maybe she used protection normally, but got a john at some point who treated her more like a mistress than a prostitute for a time and buggered off for one reason or another after she became pregnant. Or, somewhat darker, perhaps she normally used protection but got raped at some point. Assault of sex workers is, sadly, something that happens.

It could even be as simple as contraception failing - abortions back then were not exactly risk-free procedures (then again, neither was childbirth - we're talking before doctors learned about little things like washing your hands before sticking them inside a woman - even if you're covered in gloop from the morgue.

Though it certainly wasn't the norm in our history, there were still women who would raise children as single mothers. Some of them came up with documentation to "prove" they were widows, or found someone to take them in (indeed, if she found out she was pregnant early enough, she might marry a man for the sake of the respect and claim it is his - there are a lot of "suspiciously early pregnancies" [6 to 8 months after the wedding] in those sorts of societies). But, I mean, I presume you're writing fantasy if you posted here, so I don't really see any reason for your world to prescribe to the exact doctrines of ours. Maybe this world is totally cool with casual sex. Maybe this is a pornocracy (this is the legitimate term for a state run by prostitutes). Have a bit of fun with it.

And sex workers may simply choose to have children. Many women want children, and their career does not necessarily mean they won't have one. A prostitute should be no less likely to have a child than a queen or a seamstress. And there are dudes who dig the pregnant thing. I'm sure it would take 10 seconds of googling to find a porn site dedicated to it.

Honestly, a pregnant prostitute has several months when she won't really be showing that she might actually be able to increase working- since she can't get pregnant again.

Prostitute mom would definitely work.

Even in modern society birth control fails. My sister was on the pill for her second and third children- oops!

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Ophiucha said:

. And there are dudes who dig the pregnant thing. I'm sure it would take 10 seconds of googling to find a porn site dedicated to it.

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This.
She could even charge more for "Special circumstances"

From the few escorts I know they will charge up the ass for every extra they can gouge out of a john.
The hour starts upon meeting, not start of the act.
If the arrangement is for vaginal sex, oral will not be included.
Anal is a whole lot extra.
Also, escorts are not always hired for 'traditional' sexual purposes.
I know one lady who was paid 120$ to let a guy give her a manicure.
Another was hired by a nudest. She was paid her usual hourly fee to be naked in his house with him. They played x-box and ate supper.

When people hear prostitute they have a lot of preconceptions about what they are like. What their lives are like.
I have known four but only stay in touch with one.
She gave up her occupation after she had her children. She's now married and jumps from job to job as a server in pubs and restaurants.
She has a take-no-BS attitude which makes it hard for her to keep work.
If someone comes into her pub and starts acting like a jack ass, she'll throw them out- physically on occasion.

Don't guess what you think a prostitute would be like. Yes, the Renaissance would be different than today, but people are the same.
Someone who is willing to do that has a particular mind set.
It would effect their other relationships.
The woman I mentioned is a mother, has a steady job, and is married. You could never guess that was her occupation, but her personality is still there.
She does what has to be done. She's very self assured, I have never seen her regret anything she's done.
She has a very bias opinion of men.

How would your MC's mother's experience effect her relationship with a male child?
Would she resent that he was Male?
Would she make him wish he was born a woman?
Would she try to teach him how to treat women?

i guess I'm struggling with the idea of why wouldn't a prostitute have a kid?

Seems like the worst possible idea for their situation, I can't imagine many prostitute's make great decisions, and having a kid would make things worse. So, yeah, right up their alley.

So, it seems like having a kid would be the norm for prostitutes and not the exception.

As people have said above, the circumstances of the mother are going to determine the life of her child. Making the mother a prostitute is going to have far-reaching ramifications for the character, more than just being exposed to loveless sex. Rhubix mentioned the mother's feelings about the child. What about the child's feelings toward the mother? What is the status of children of unmarried mothers in your story? Do prostitutes' children suffer especial levels of discrimination? How does the lack of a father-figure affect the character?

The movement West during 1800's America a lot of young women became prostitutes because they were forced into that position due to financial and other reasons. Others became prostitutes on purpose in hopes of marrying a rich john, meeting her knight in shining armor.

Depending on your character she could become pregnant in order to guilt her john into marrying her and making her a respectable woman and having it fail.

Lyra Jean said:

Others became prostitutes on purpose in hopes of marrying a rich john, meeting her knight in shining armor.

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Perhaps she had the child within a normal marriage and some tragedy struck. She lost her husband, had no more support from anywhere else, and ended up turning to prostitution as her only hope.

knight_tour said:

Perhaps she had the child within a normal marriage and some tragedy struck. She lost her husband, had no more support from anywhere else, and ended up turning to prostitution as her only hope.

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I feel like this is probably the most plausible way to do it- and certainly the most empathetic.

If we're talking Renaissance-type culture, his mother needn't be a prostitute for him to witness loveless sex. It could be a political marriage, aimed at uniting two businesses or estates, in which the father cares nothing for the mother but uses her to satisfy his physical needs as well as to provide an heir.

Centarch said:

I feel like this is probably the most plausible way to do it- and certainly the most empathetic.

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I agree. And if the character can remember what life was like before his father died, you've added depth to whatever he thinks about his current situation.

I guess I'm wondering here - is a child actually witnessing loveless sex? As in...watching? () Or is he just witnessing the fallout? If it's the latter, then you've got a few other ways other than prostitution for him to witness that. Prostitution might be the easy way, sure. But easy isn't necessarily the best way for the story.

If he is actually watching ()...I still don't think that'd be limited to prostitutes. Plus, how old at the time is MC. Or is it ongoing, or what?

During the renaissance, if an unmarried woman would give birth to a child, she would probably lose social status or even become an outcast. This could be a reason to turn to prostitution in the first place.

satyesu said:

My idea was to have him going to bed each night to the sound of a squeaking bed, his mom fake-moaning, etc. This would corrupt his thoughts on sex and make it easy for an early teen to resist the advances of a female later.

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Okay...how does he know Mum is faking it? Why would this make it easier for him to resist advances from a woman - I mean if she's advancing on him, it's not the same situation as Mum is it? Or does he not fancy her? I can't really see why, if he just doesn't fancy a woman he'd not just say no (ETA: Unless she's offering him money or something in return). Especially in a male dominated society. Maybe you need to explain a bit more, because I'm not sure I'm getting it.

Anyway, if you're going with this, instead of prostitution*, you could just as easily, as said upthread, have a political marriage, or one where the Mum married so they'd have a roof over their head or for protection or any number of things.



*I'm getting a bit bored with prostitutes in books just lately. Especially when all the women are either prostitutes or virgins. *rolls eyes* Personal preference, but I'd say there would be just as many women marrying for reasons as above as there were prostitutes. For me, that'd make it much more interesting. How does the son get on with the male in question? Etc etc