Did I write a romance? (Round 2)

Hello, all. Me again.

Here I am, months later after revising, re-revising, editing, and polishing my MS. I've written a query letter, I'm out on submission, and I really am truly stuck as to whether my story is a romance or not.

I won a Brenda Novak auction query letter critique from the fabulous Saritza Hernandez. She got back to me yesterday, and her comments are basically around my genre. I have a lot of "stuff" in there, which I can pare out, but I'm 100% not sure whether I've written a romance or not. It sounds like one when you read my query. But according to this (lifted from another thread), it's sort of, kind of not:

A Central Love Story: The main plot centers around individuals falling in love and struggling to make the relationship work. A writer can include as many subplots as he/she wants as long as the love story is the main focus of the novel.

Query:

Angel Enael never wanted to become a demon.

When the Council of Seraphim denies Enael ascension past the rank of Guardian, they say she needs “more experience” with humans. More experience? She’s been a Guardian for five centuries! Maybe if she stops her next assignment from cheating on his wife, she’ll prove herself.

Kaspen guards the woman seducing Enael’s charge. He’s committed to his human’s success, certain that a life worth living must have its difficulties and temptations. His effortless connection to his charge frustrates Enael, but she’s also intrigued. His acceptance of human choices makes her wonder if a seemingly wrong decision is sometimes right. While their humans struggle, Enael forges a bond with Kaspen she’s never had with another.

When Yasva, a fallen angel from Kaspen’s past, discovers his relationship with Enael, she attacks their charges. Despite Enael’s attempts to stop her, Yasva convinces Kaspen he’s to blame and beguiles him into renouncing his wings.

Enael’s next assignment is waiting for her, but Kaspen suffers in hell, enslaved by a powerful demon. Enael must make a choice: To perform her sacred duty, she must surrender the angel she loves. To save him, she must become a fallen angel herself.

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Here's my problem: If you look at this from one perspective, Enael and Yasva are fighting over Kaspen. He's the prize to be won at the end of their big battle. Although Enael falls in love with him and that love motivates her to grow and do crazy things, it's not about their love. It's about her growth arc. In fact, I feel that my avatar captures the essence of the story--Enael is alone a lot of it, struggling, trying to figure out what to do.

Except, I don't know how to tell the story without it sounding like a romance. And maybe it is--but I honestly don't believe that it would appeal to someone who is straight-up looking for a love story.

Am I over-thinking this? Should I just call it a supernatural romance and shop it out to romance agents?

Yes

Is there a difference between a romantic fantasy and a fantasy with romantic elements?

Yeah, that all makes sense. OK. So it's a fantasy (possibly urban, but it doesn't really happen in a city) with romantic elements.