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I may be in the minority, but I dislike the "I just like people" idea of bi-ness.
It may work for some individuals but I don't think it's a good description of the general concept of bisexuality. It somehow divorces the entire concept from sex and gender, when that still plays a part for many people. Several bi folk I know, me included, are attracted to different things traits in men than women. You can like the person AND their sex AND their gender.
I completely agree with this.
To the OP, I think it varies so much because bisexuality is so completely varied. I'm in the Cynthia Nixon camp of bisexuality (is there one?) where I chose to date women very intentionally. I just so happened to end up meeting my partner and falling in love with her. If that hadn't worked out, who knows, maybe I would have ended up with a man. But very likely not. I'm bisexual, but women are my emotional wheelhouse. So I think it could be the case for your character that he's sexually attracted to men and women, but feels more emotionally close to men. It's the exact opposite for me.