Can you share the talk your parents gave you?
Has anyone else on this board had a 'what not to do to get in trouble with black people' conversation with their parents?
How does that conversation sound like?
Alright, that probably wasn't the best way to phrase it. "How not to get in trouble with black people" meant "How to avoid offending someone". I didn't mean anything negative by it. It just meant I was taught from a young age not to say anything that could offend black people. We have a higher than the national average percentage of black people in my city and are from what I've come to realize, fairly more integrated than a lot of areas. So the concern here is less racism and more fear of racism.
I'm not saying there aren't racists here. Just that I don't think it's as prevalent as in other... less integrated, areas.
Growing up I did get semi-frequent reminders not to say anything that might be misconstrued. Mostly, how not to be mistaken for a racist, of ANY race. But it was more or less a general tolerance of differences that my mother was teaching me.
Kids tend to just blurt out the first thing that comes to mind and I definitely did a lot of that.
Please don't take my other post wrong. I was in no way saying that being mistaken for a racist is in any way comparable to being the victim of racism. I was just saying that some of us who are not "anti-black" get pegged with that title anyway, sometimes despite their best efforts.
I apologize if it came off the wrong way.