Hmm...reading this thread has been very helpful for me. I have been with my S.O. since 1999, and he has always been supportive, even though his eyes glaze over if I go into too much depth on the process of writing. He's creative in that he's a great storyteller when he runs RPG's, but he doesn't really write, per se. We have an unspoken agreement that he never reads my stuff, because I know that his opinion will carry too much weight. However, he is really analytical, so he's a good sounding-board when my ideas are in the earliest stages of development.
And I know for a fact that, even when he doesn't seem to be paying attention to my story-talk, he retains it, and then goes and speaks glowingly about it to his friends and co-workers. It was a big wake-up call to me when we were hanging out with some friends, and I passingly mentioned one of my WIP's, and a friend asked about it, and my s.o. just launched into this incredible "OMG this story's concept is SO COOL" speech.
Our relationship has always fallen into the category of the three lives. He and I both have some shared interests, and some un-shared interests. I've always been good about letting him go out and do things with his friends, because otherwise, how can I expect him to let me go out and do things with my friends?
We just got married in July, and my new hubby and I have spent a lot of time just getting settled into the apartment, getting unpacked, buying furniture, and trying to turn our apartment into a 'home.'
But now that the dust is settling, I spend hours and hours writing in a delirious rush (or having writing parties with my writer friends, where we sit around writing in a delirious rush together), since I'm THIS CLOSE to the end of my novel's first draft. And I find myself worrying if I'm getting my marriage off on the wrong foot, or if my hubby feels neglected. He says he doesn't feel that way at all, but since we're both new at this whole marriage thing, I'm still worrying and second-guessing myself.
Reading other people's posts about how their marriages have (or haven't) worked has really assured me that as long as we keep the communication lines open, we will be able to work things out.
And I know for a fact that, even when he doesn't seem to be paying attention to my story-talk, he retains it, and then goes and speaks glowingly about it to his friends and co-workers. It was a big wake-up call to me when we were hanging out with some friends, and I passingly mentioned one of my WIP's, and a friend asked about it, and my s.o. just launched into this incredible "OMG this story's concept is SO COOL" speech.
Our relationship has always fallen into the category of the three lives. He and I both have some shared interests, and some un-shared interests. I've always been good about letting him go out and do things with his friends, because otherwise, how can I expect him to let me go out and do things with my friends?
We just got married in July, and my new hubby and I have spent a lot of time just getting settled into the apartment, getting unpacked, buying furniture, and trying to turn our apartment into a 'home.'
But now that the dust is settling, I spend hours and hours writing in a delirious rush (or having writing parties with my writer friends, where we sit around writing in a delirious rush together), since I'm THIS CLOSE to the end of my novel's first draft. And I find myself worrying if I'm getting my marriage off on the wrong foot, or if my hubby feels neglected. He says he doesn't feel that way at all, but since we're both new at this whole marriage thing, I'm still worrying and second-guessing myself.
Reading other people's posts about how their marriages have (or haven't) worked has really assured me that as long as we keep the communication lines open, we will be able to work things out.